Break ups don’t just affect one of the partners. It hurts both the people equally and disturbs their life significantly. It is a common belief that men move on easily, however, men are less emotionally stable than women and it takes a lot more time for them to recover from break ups than women. Furthermore, women hold on to the belief that someday things will be better and that they will get back their boyfriend. Even when the truth is break up is a better option; couples often find themselves trying to make things work. Here is what you can do to get your girlfriend back:

Lose her contact number

During the initial stages of a break up, there is always this urge to contact your ex girlfriend and beg her to come back. However, that is not a good idea and may take your girlfriend even more far away from you. Delete her off your Facebook or other social networking sites and delete her number. Basically, do everything that keeps her out of the contact boundary. Try not to check on her through her friends and don’t stalk her around the city. This is called reverse psychology and the result will amaze you! If you don’t try to find out about her, she will!

While you’re away

While you’re away from her and having no contact at all, do the things you love to do. Watch movies, play xbox, meet friends, have a boys night out, etc. Let the world be your playground and have all the fun you want. It is even better if you go out of town for some time to leave the memories behind. During this time, vow to become a better person and fix the flaws that you have in your personality. Figure out what went wrong with your relationship and change for the better.

In control of your emotions

Now that you have had some time on your own, you are likely to think with a clear head. Do you really want her back? Is there a chance that you could develop the same feelings for another girl? If you can forget her and move on, that is the best option. But if that doesn’t work for you, check on your ex girlfriend. Contact her now and find out how she is doing. Is she seeing someone else? Is she already over you? Contact her without any expectations because it is not necessary that she should feel the same way about you.

Meet up!

Stay in contact with her for a long time before you ask her if you two could meet up. Avoid meetings planned in the evening or at night, the idea is to have a friendly meeting, not a romantic one. Go out for lunch or something that you would do with a female friend. Do not make her feel awkward during the meeting by reminding her of the past. Just remind her of the good friendship you guys had before things messed up. Make her feel that you understand her and ask her about her life issues. Give advice and just show her that you will always be there for her.

Play her supporter

Once you guys have met, stay friends. Be open enough to share your problems with her and listen to hers. Say things that suggest you still like her, however, don’t take a direct approach. Just make her think about it and confuse her a little. And if you are wondering what you have achieved, here is the answer! You have achieved the reversal of situation whereby she is the one thinking if you really want her back! Isn’t that great?

Only pour your heart out when asked

Now that the situation is in your control, let her make the next move. She will have no control over her feelings and will end up asking you what you really want. If such a situation arises, let her know what you feel. However, chances are that you would only enjoy being her friend after a while. So just do what your heart says. If you don’t want a relationship, let her know. Tell her you want to be friends. But if you still love her, well, guess you have got her back, isn’t it?

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